On/ off relationships are big bucks in Hollywood. Entire films and Tv proves depend on our investment in will-they-won’t-they, drawn-out relationships- Ross and Rachel, Carrie and Big, Joey and Dawson, Kermit and Miss Piggy- but did anyone actually think they were relationship objectives? A analyze in the journal Family Relation has suggested that on/ off relationships can be linked to signs of psychological distress.
In the study, in which 545 people took part, 279 were in same-sex relationships and 266 in different-sex relationships. The researchers led by Dr Kale Monk from the University of Missouri looked at symptoms of depression and nervousnes during on/ off cycling in relationships.
They said that 60 percent of adults have experienced such a relationship, which have been linked to higher rates of abuse and lower levels of communication. On/ off relationships were more likely to occur in male-male relationships than female-female or mixed sex.
In a statement, Dr Monk noted that broken off and getting back together was “not always a bad omen for a couple, ” as it could “help partners realise the importance of their relationship.” But those that were repeatedly doing it could cause problems.
“On the other hand, partners who are routinely breaking up and getting back together could be negatively impacted by the pattern, ” he said.
Repeatedly breaking up and getting back together is aware of relationship cycling, and that can be a sign of bigger issues at play. In such studies, the authors found that an increase in relationship cycling was associated with symptoms like depression and nervousnes for both same-sex and heterosexual couples.
“The findings suggest that people who find themselves regularly broken off and getting back along with their partners need to ‘look for the purposes of the hood’ of their relationships to determine what’s going on, ” Dr Monk said.
“If partners are honest about the specific characteristics, they can take the necessary steps to maintain their relationships or safely end them. This is vital for preserving their well-being.”
He does offer some tips though. He says that if considering rekindling a relationship, both partners should consider why they broke up in the first place and see if that could still be a problem. Also, he indicates looking at whether getting back together is a good idea.
If you’re actually stuck, couples therapy can also be an option. And, if the most difficult comes to worst, he says to remember that it’s okay to objective a toxic relationship without feeling guilty.